If We’re So Tolerant, Then Why Do We Still Make Fun Of Fat People & Think It’s Ok?

We read two articles where two women from completely different worlds were being victimized in the same way. One is a major TV and Film star, the other is an average American woman trying to prove a point.

Actress Melissa McCarthy is well known for her hilarious roles in Bridesmaids and her hit CBS comedy ‘Mike and Molly’. For a network to have a leading star that is not a waif thin model is already breaking new grounds for television and will hopefully widen the scope for women in entertainment.

Over the weekend her new film ‘Identity Thief’ hit cinemas and surprised everyone by raking in $11.2 Million on its opening night. But one critic, namely Rex Reed from the Observer didn’t care much for the film at all. That’s completely fine, it’s his job to comment on what he likes and doesn’t like. What did get the entire Hollywood community up in arms was his personal attacks and disgusting comments towards McCarthy that left people, including us, rather shocked.

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“In the trashy, stupefying screenplay by Craig Mazin, Jason Bateman is a Denver accountant named Sandy Patterson—another in a long line of victims of the increasingly dangerous world of cyber-crime—whose credit card has been hacked and copied by a felonious thief in Miami (cacophonous, tractor-sized Melissa McCarthy).”

“The snafus in the worst road movie since The Guilt Trip plunge Mr. Bateman and his female hippo into a motel with only a double bed…”

“Melissa McCarthy (Bridesmaids) is a gimmick comedian who has devoted her short career to being obese and obnoxious with equal success.”

Can you believe this guy? I’m almost certain he isn’t a George Clooney or Ryan Gosling look-a-like. And it’s even more disappointing and sad that his paycheck that week came from poking fun at someone’s weight rather than just sticking to the facts.

The second article was in the Daily Mail and was an expose by Memphis photographer Haley Morris-Cafiero. The 37 year old has always struggled with her weight, she tells the paper, but doesn’t let that deter her from being an artist or pursuing her passion. She is currently the head of the photography department at the Memphis College of Art and one of only 20 artists represented by the A.I.R Gallery in New York. No small achievement for a woman in an industry that is highly competitive and cliquey.

She decided to create a social commentary on the way society views obese people like her after a chance capture in one of her photos. Since 2010 she has taken thousands of photos in various countries of herself out in public and captured the stares and dirty looks from passers by around her. She has completed two visual series ‘Wait Watchers’ and ‘Something to Weigh’ which has been described by some critics as one of the most compelling photographic lifestyle series ever.

Haley Morris-Cafiero

“I have always had a hard time controlling my weight. My uncontrollable exterior has determined my place in society and I have often felt left out and awkward. For this series, I photograph myself in socially engaged spaces to examine how my body fits into society,” she says on her website about the ‘Something to Weigh’ series.

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“I have always been aware of people making faces, commenting and laughing at me about my size. I now reverse the gaze and record their reactions to me while I perform mundane tasks in public spaces,” she says about the ‘Wait Watchers’ series and what motivated her to create it in the first place.

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So our question is, if there is so much supposed ‘forward thinking’ and acceptance being flung around in sociological circles, why are we still acting like high school bullies? Why do we allow people like Rex Reed to justify his position because it causes controversy and draws attention to his review rather than others?

He has since commented and responded to the outcry saying it was all a well-orchestrated publicity stunt. He told a radio station in New York that he was contacted by Universal pictures to write that particular type of review. There is no way in this wild world that the very studio that hired this beautiful actress to play the lead role in this comedy had to stoop so low as to ask a movie critic to attack the actress’ size and call her awful names. That is not how it works buddy!

In February of 2012 celebrity designer Karl Lagerfeld made fun of Adele saying she was a “little bit too fat” and the entire world shot him down for saying such derogatory comments. He did apologize and back-peddled saying he loved her music, but the damage was done and our minds were already made up. But being the strong accomplished (Grammy winning) woman she is, Adele simply retorted by saying she is proud to have a body type that represents the majority of women. Her diplomatic intelligent response was also a subtle dig at the fact this high profile designer who most likely does not design for the majority of women.


We are just glad there are brave women like Haley Morris-Cofiero who are willing to admit their struggles but not let it hold them back. We admire them because they are willing to be vulnerable and use what they have as fuel. We believe there are two types of people in the world: do-ers and the haters. The do-ers will always find a way and reason to do things. The haters will always find a way and a reason to try and bring others down.


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