“I’m Happily Dating An Unappreciative Jerk Who Secretly Watches Porn” Said No Woman Ever…

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Well actually, it’s not so secret because you’ve caught him a few times, right?

If I could make money off the amount of times my girlfriends repeated this title, I would have a pretty decent and steady income.

So why is it too common an occurrence that the majority of the male species are complete and total wastes of space?

Because they are approaching it all wrong and therein lies the problem.

We women are nurturers and the majority of us like to do lots of nice things for our loved ones: fold laundry, make dinner, pick up their prescriptions, buy groceries, pay bills, clean the house, wash dishes, organize dates, help them buy clothes, give them compliments in front of their friends to boost their ego, we take care of our appearance and the list goes on.

Can a guy do all this stuff? Physically, yes. Willingly and capably, no.

In their “doing” minds they have to do things for us and that equals all the things we “do” for them. They are so far off the mark it’s like they have big sloping foreheads and just walked out of an ice-age cave.

So for all you idiotic men out there who can’t seem to get it right (like, ever) here is a simple guide to what women want and need to be “appreciated”.

We want hugs, and lots of them. We want “thank you’s” accompanied with kisses, and lots of them. We want admiration, and lots of it. As Jennifer Aniston told Vince Vaughn in The Break Up we want you to WANT to do the dishes. Why? It is the very least you could do to show us how thankful you are for the million things we do for you on a daily basis.

So read this s – l – o – w – l – y men (aka, boys): all we want when we say we need some appreciation, it’s a decent sized amount of attention mixed with thankfulness and affection. If that’s too much for your limited and underdeveloped brains to comprehend, then hey there’s always porn. That’s satisfying right?!?

Which brings me to my next point. If your guy watches porn, why are you even wasting your time?! Seriously, is this high school all over again? If a guy hasn’t grown out of his primitive pornography phase and still sends group emails to his mates sharing the latest titillating titty offering, he does not deserve any good thing, let alone a woman who has a lot of love to give who is willing to do anything and everything for her man.

And these morons wonder why we act crazy?!?

“Babe I think you should go on the pill” they say so convincingly, yet they have no idea what kind of hormonal and emotional havoc this form of  contraception plays on our bodies nor do they care.

Then comes the line “I’d rather watch porn than sleep with you” or “now that you’re acting like this I’m definitely not sleeping with you!”

Is there a cure for insensitivejerk/unappreciativemoron/iwatchpornalot-itis? Depends. If they are worth their weight in gold, then perhaps they would listen and understand your needs after you talk it through.

Others are the lost causes. They are the “starter husbands” the fallback guys, the mistakes, the gap-fillers until the real men come along. No matter how you say it, whether it be intelligently, calmly, patronizingly, angrily, or crazily while waving your arms in the air like a man woman, if some dude can’t see outside his own little bubble to give you what you need, then he never will.

It’s shame, yes. But eventually you are going to have to let him be someone else’s shame and not yours anymore. In the meantime, having a good bitch session with your trusted girlfriends, reminding yourself of your worth and value regardless of his actions (or lack thereof). Dress up in your hottest outfit, let your beauty shine for everyone else to see while he has his head glued to a porn on his ipad.

If I can leave you ladies with one last thought, it’s a plea. The best thing you can do is learn from your mistakes and not to knowingly go through the same detrimental relationship again, and again. Please please don’t ignore the warning signs, red flags and advice.

Guys will do anything to get a girl. The men however, will continue doing whatever it takes to keep their woman if they know they are onto a good thing. The boys will let their true colors show, slack off and one day sorely regret that they didn’t take a little bit of time out of their day to show you how much they love you.

No one can ever take away nor diminish your worth, your beauty or your essence. Today you can make the choice to stay with someone who stifles and suppresses who you are, or free yourself to eventually be with someone who is going to support you and let you fly and allow you to shine through life.

 

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7 Comments

  1. Kay Hudson says:

    Hallelujah !!

    As a Feminine Gay Guy (who dates very masculine men) and who is Anti-Porn and has the utmost respect for himself and what I want in life, I totally agree and couldn’t thank you more for this piece, as it is affirming to who I am, and what I will/won’t accept !

    I will never let any man be around me who isn’t worthy…period.

    Thanks Asha

  2. I find this article kind of strange. If a man watches porn why does that automatically make him an insensitive jerk who does not understand you? What if her gives you all the hugs and kisses but still watches porn? The article is more sexist rambling than anything (site the men can’t do nurturing things willing line six paragraphs in). The truth is that all men watch porn at some time. If anyone says otherwise they’re liars. If you judge them for it or won’t tolerate it then you don’t understand men. It helps to balance hormones and relieve stress (don’t forget ladies that men have hormone fluctuations too). Also realize there’s some guys out there who would never be able to have enough sex to balance them out because you both have jobs, lives, and varying energy levels; telling a man he can’t porn and be with you is like saying a women can’t bitch to her friends when shes feeling down, its unreasonable and no one has the right to exercise that level of control over them. Having said that guys who would say they’d rather watch porn then be with you do have some growing up to do and most guys won’t watch if they have anything else to do. However i don’t know any guys who go over a year without watching porn. Don’t be mad about it, porn does something that sex normally does not for most guys. I didn’t do as good of a job explaining it here but this is getting long so I’ll end with this, if watching porn is a deal breaker for you despite other good characteristics (such as affection, responsibility, or any other seemingly not normal attributes this article was supposed to be complaining about) you’re just a selfish person who wants too much control over their significant other and should be alone. Pick your battles ladies, porn does not make you a bad person.

  3. Wow, alright.
    So if a guy watches porn it automatically makes him an “unappreciative jerk”.
    I see.
    There’s no need to bring all your utter bullshit to this webpage.
    If you’re going to hate on guys, do it to people who actually give a fuck. Don’t litter a webpage with this nonsense.

  4. My favorite thing about the article? Women proving how delusional they really are, all by themselves.

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