What’s Underneath Is What Counts. Real Talk About Empowering Effects Of Lingerie


By Veronica Granja-Sierra

We live in a world where people make assumptions about us women strictly by the clothes we wear and the purses we carry. But what about the inner goddess hiding behind that expensive Versace blouse and Parasuco jeans?

A true woman who knows how to unleash that inner goddess understands that the first step is by beginning with the right foundation garments: lingerie.

Feeling good in your lingerie is imperative, regardless of whether anyone else will sneak a peek of you in it or not.

But nowadays it seems as if lingerie is solely a sexual or intimidating thing- something that is only meant to be seen by your partner in the bedroom; something that is to be worn for someone else; something that stays on for 2 minutes and ends up on the bedroom floor anyways. But all these notions are very wrong…

Lingerie can and SHOULD be about more than just sex; and although it helps in being visual eye-candy for someone else, lingerie should be something that women buy and wear for themselves that makes them look and feel as good as they deserve.

What all women need to realize is that the point of sexy lingerie is not necessarily for your partner to see you in, but just for the fact of yourself knowing that you have it on.

Nowadays, lingerie has become a vast world of more than just bras and panties, but of corsets and teddies and bustiers and stockings and garters and slips and robes and the list goes on. There’s intricate laces, sparkling gems, beautifully placed ruffles, cute ribbons, and many more embellishments on these undergarment pieces that help create remarkably sexy lingerie that should allow it to be discussed about in the same way we discuss the latest fashion trends and beauty products.

Modern lingerie should not have the two extreme opposite functions of either being for the bedroom or as a piece of garment for women to protect their private parts. Lingerie should be a fashion icon that symbolizes women empowerment; that signifies femininity, sexiness, and to inspire women all over the globe.

Lingerie can be used as a refuge for who you are on the inside, as it allows you to express who you really are no matter what brand or style of clothing you are wearing on top.


We all know that women have multiple facets of personalities and emotions and lingerie lets us express all of that when we don’t want to project them to the outside world. Perhaps sometimes we are feeling romantic and dreamy and that’s when we can pull out the pink and ruffle-detailed bra and satin panties. Sometimes we are feeling flirty and playful and we can pull out the red push-up bra lacy thong. When we feel lazy and modest, we can pull out the lounge bras and cotton briefs, and when we feel cool and casual, we can pull out that t-shirt bra and boy short panties. And the list goes on whether we’re feeling mysterious, adventurous, gloomy, or low.

And for the women that just want comfort, settling for plain and boring undergarments such as shapewear and Granny panties doesn’t need to be an option, as nowadays lingerie creators are using the finest of fabrics for their products making comfort the new sexy.

One growing trend that all women should start to follow is the simple coordination of their lingerie. Accordingly, a matching pair of bra and panties has been proven to actually have an impact on a woman’s self-esteem. When the time and effort is taken to adorn your body in beautiful lingerie, it affirms your self-worth and boosts self-confidence. It ignites feminine creativity and when you think about it, it helps in taking yourself seriously, because let’s be real, do you even take yourself serious when you’re lounging in PJ’s all day?

It is proven that when you feel your best is when you are at your best and people will naturally gravitate to you. Confidence in what you are wearing not only makes you feel good but it attracts people who appreciate those qualities.

Women need to start moving beyond the notion of lingerie either being bland, boring shapewear or for hot and steamy sex. There IS a middle ground between the two, which is the simple notion of feeling great because you are wearing something that you LOVE.


A woman who wears a matching bra and underwear or fancy lingerie might just be an indication of how connected she is with her body. And that’s what lingerie should be about- connecting with her with her body, not detaching her from it. Lingerie allows women to delve into their sensuality, which in turn can build confidence as it helps to reconnect with their inner selves, encouraging them to be bold yet discreet, whimsical and mysterious, yet beautiful. This sensuality adds a spark of excitement that ignites enthusiasm in a woman’s life. It allows her to have an inner secret glamor, inspiring her to feel fabulous.

It is vital for women to maintain and refresh themselves with pampering and indulgences as their busy lives overwhelm them with its demands and schedules. That is when the spa, gym, and shopping come into play, but so does lingerie.

Just like shoes and handbags, lingerie should be a staple in a woman’s closet and perhaps be even more important because if a woman is wearing something truly beautiful underneath her clothing, she sends the powerful message to herself and to the world of pure confidence and poise.

The purpose of lingerie can be so much more than just for the bedroom and to seduce men. It should be about being able to wear something that makes you feel amazing and love the way you look and every woman is entitled to that single or not. If a guy gets lucky enough to see you in it, then he should consider himself blessed. But if you think that just because no one will see it that it doesn’t matter, then think about this: Do you not clean your house because no one is coming to visit? You live there… don’t YOU matter?

The sad thing is that most women do not believe they are worthy of nice lingerie or that it is worth their money. They feel guilty buying something that is intended for a few eyes only. They feel it is impractical because no one will see it or because no one cares. But after all, it IS what’s on the inside that counts. Even if you are the only one who knows about it, you are the only one who MATTERS and although it may seem like a frivolous indulgence, it is definitely a realistic way to take control of your own happiness and life.

Veronica Granja-Sierra is a 23-year old aspiring journalist, animal lover, female power advocate & Media Studies graduate from Toronto who has written for various media outlets on a variety of different lifestyle topics. One thing that puts a smile on her face is inspiring women all over the globe. 
Follow her on twitter @Veronica_Granja and Instagram @Veronica_Granja

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