Why Victoria Beckham Refuses To Feel Guilty For Being A Working Mom

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You know the name, and you certainly know all the associations that come with the name Victoria Beckham: celebrity, designer, Spice Girl, mother, and wife to soccer superstar. She’s certainly a woman who has seen enormous success in her career and on the surface looks like a woman who embodies perfection. But there is more than meets the eye to Victoria when you hear her speak passionately about her life.

She was recently listed among 8 women who were honored by Glamour Magazine for their annual Women Of The Year Awards, chosen for her bold sense of style and turning that into a multi-million dollar empire. Her designer line, VB, is reportedly worth $57 million and is worn by celebrities such as Oprah Winfrey and Eva Longoria. She has been awarded multiple fashion industry awards and is well-respected by industry insiders and elites such as Vogue editor-in-chief Anna Wintour.

Of course we all first came to be infatuated with her from her role as Posh Spice in the 90s global music phenomenon group the Spice Girls, but it is clear that being a fashion designer is what she was always meant to do.

Victoria is also a mom to 4 kids, one of whom, her eldest son Brooklyn, accompanied her as her date to the Glamour WOTY ceremony in New York.

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In an appearance on Good Morning America with Glamour editor-in-chief Cindi Leive, Victoria shares some candid aspects of her life including why female empowerment is so important to her, and the important lesson she took 40 years to learn.

“I love to support and empower women and that’s the message tonight. What Cindi [Leive] and Glamour are doing, just showing exactly what’s possible if we stick together and support each other. It means an enormous amount,” she said about her award.

But it’s not just her work in fashion and the celebrity world that is admirable about Victoria. Last year she was appointed as an Global Goodwill Ambassador for UNAIDS after she had made a trip to South Africa and decided she wanted to do more than just speak about an issue or donate money.

“When UNAIDS invited me to be a UNAIDS Global Goodwill Ambassador, it was a huge honor and something that meant an enormous amount to me. This is something I’m very passionate about. I’m spending a lot of time in Africa working very closely with the U.N., speaking on behalf of the incredible women that I’m working with,” she said.

In a passionate speech given at the time alongside UNAIDS executive director Michel Sidibé, Victoria talks about how her role as a mother made her realize why this was something important that she needed to get involved in.

Since joining the cause, after being a patron of Elton John’s AIDS foundation for years, Victoria has raised more than $4 million, some of which came from auctioning off items from her wardrobe, which will benefit HIV and AIDS charities including AMFAR, the Elton John AIDS Foundation, and Mothers 2 Mothers.

“Motherhood puts us all on one level. I just felt this real pull to help,” she said.

As for the lesson that took her 40 years to learn, it was that her voice is powerful.

“It took me getting to 40 years old to realize I have a powerful voice. People will listen to what I say for whatever reason, and I can really make a difference. It means a huge amount,” she said.

Cindi Leive, who also appeared on GMA with Victoria, said it was her realization of the power of her voice and the desire to use it for good that made her a perfect candidate to be a Woman Of The Year receipient.

“We look for women who are not just doing great things for themselves but we look for women who are doing something to make the world a better place for all women. That idea of, ‘I’ve been given this platform, now what am I going to do with it?’” explained Cindi.

And like any normal working mother, Victoria shares how there are times when she has felt guilty for being away from her kids, but thankfully she had some great advice from one of her designer friends.

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“I was having dinner with Diane von Furstenberg a few months ago and she’s a woman I have an enormous amount of respect and admiration for. I said to her, ‘Diane, when your children were younger and you were working, did you feel guilty?’ And she said, ‘Absolutely not. It’s a waste of time, a waste of energy, it’s aging.’ And she said, ‘Actually, you’re setting a good example with the fact that you’re a women, you’re going to work. You really are setting a good example.’” recalls Victoria.

She is certainly on point about setting a great example, as a study by Harvard University released earlier this year showed. After surveying 50,000 adults from 25 developed counties, Harvard researchers found daughters of working mothers are better educated and earn more money, and sons of working mothers spent an extra hour caring for children each week than sons of stay-at-home mothers along with devoting an additional 17 minutes per week to housework.

And how can we NOT mention the recent news story of a mother form Georgia who literally took her college psychology final exam while in labor. Talk about a determined, multi-tasking supermom!

For Victoria, she now looks at her achievements as a positive.

“I’m sure there are lots of women right now watching TV who are thinking, ‘I feel guilty. I’ve got kids and I’m going to work.’ Actually, it is a positive message to be given to your children and to other women and children as well,” she said.

There is so much power when women share their vulnerabilities and work to support each other. It may seem like Victoria has it all, but she has worked hard for all of her achievements, and it’s something we can all learn from. As for the driving force behind what made Victoria go after her dreams, it’s a concept many of us are already familiar with, especially if you’re a fan of the Spice Girls.

“I was never the cleverest, never best at anything. But we always tell our children that if you work hard and believe in yourself, you can do what you want. I did have to find myself and my confidence. And I want to make other women feel like the best version of themselves. That’s the same message as the Spice Girls. It’s still Girl Power.”

Take a look at some of her interview on Good Morning America below:

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